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UNDERSTANDING CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIPS

Controlling people use a whole arsenal of tools in order to dominate their partners— whether they or their partners realize what’s happening or not. Sometimes, the emotional manipulation is complex enough that the person who is being controlled actually believes that they themselves are the villain, or that they are extremely lucky that their controlling […]

NOTES ABOUT PERFECTIONISM

Most of the clients I see will actually deny being perfectionists. They seem to feel they are not good enough to be perfectionists. Perfectionists tend to hold very high standards for themselves and their loved ones. They tend to visualize an ultimate successful outcome and excel at mobilizing all of their resources to move […]

WORRIED ABOUT EXPERIENCING ANXIETY?

Worry leads to anxiety, and at some point it may be hard to stop worrying and thinking about everything that may go wrong. If you are worried about your … worries, and would like to know to what degree anxiety has become a problem in your life, complete a self-assessment questionnaire from this helpline […]

YOU ARE NOT YOUR MIND

 

The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly – you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. […]

MINDFUL CRAFTS

 

Mindful crafts kits are now available on Etsy. As a psychotherapist and a crafter I am a deep believer in the healing power of loving attention. The peace and joy we feel when we craft or interact with items made with attention and love. In big cities we spend time interacting with disposable items. It […]

JOY, REGARDLESS!

Have a joyful holidays! Do take a break from everything that is not the way we wish it would be. From all the hurt around the world and in your life this year. From all the disappointments and losses. Close your eyes and imagine the starry night sky, perfect sparkly flakes of snow slowly […]

BEST RESOURCES OF LOW COST COUNSELLING AND PSYCHOTHERAPY IN TORONTO

I must admit, there are not many, although it is my firm belief that psychotherapy should be included in OHIP covered services, the way it is in many European countries. Here are the best one-on-one services available in no particular order:

Your family doctor is a great resource of OHIP covered services. There are […]

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY THANKSGIVING

How to connect with joy and gratitude on Thanksgiving? Like all the holidays marketed as pinnacle of a perfect life (Christmas, Valentines Day, New Year, you name it), many of us feel alienated and inadequate on Thanksgiving. We do not have perfect pies ( I sincerely apologize for my unrealistic post pic), perfect homes, […]

FALL

Fall equinox brings Kali and the burning of the old self. She knows that your greatest self can only rise from the ashes of the lesser you. – Jessica Hesser
Fall is a time of accepting what is on its way out, soon to be gone.
It is time to reconcile with transient way of life, […]

YOU CHOOSE THE DIRECTION

The difference between mistake and experiment is in the belief that you cannot gracefully change your direction. That it is not OK to change your mind. It is not OK to change your beliefs. It is not OK to abort a project.

But it is OK. You can experiment. You can try. You can change […]